<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:googleplay="http://www.google.com/schemas/play-podcasts/1.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[a different sober]]></title><description><![CDATA["365 posts about life, choices, and changing my relationship with alcohol. If this sounds like something you'd want to see, I'm glad you're here."]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com</link><image><url>https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!u0fV!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F23807b30-91d5-4c0c-9c99-346fffaecdff_512x512.png</url><title>a different sober</title><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com</link></image><generator>Substack</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 11 Jul 2026 16:56:25 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.adifferentsober.com/feed" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><copyright><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></copyright><language><![CDATA[en]]></language><webMaster><![CDATA[adifferentsober@substack.com]]></webMaster><itunes:owner><itunes:email><![CDATA[adifferentsober@substack.com]]></itunes:email><itunes:name><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></itunes:name></itunes:owner><itunes:author><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></itunes:author><googleplay:owner><![CDATA[adifferentsober@substack.com]]></googleplay:owner><googleplay:email><![CDATA[adifferentsober@substack.com]]></googleplay:email><googleplay:author><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></googleplay:author><itunes:block><![CDATA[Yes]]></itunes:block><item><title><![CDATA["Pummelling"]]></title><description><![CDATA[Short Story Saturday - 'Thursday', by George Saunders]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/pummelling</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/pummelling</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 11 Jul 2026 00:40:31 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iiBj!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffa1bfa36-8160-4789-b7b7-562704381932_1600x1076.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Having read the start over, I&#8217;m still guessing as to what George Saunders is laying out in his wonderful short story, &#8220;<strong>Thursday</strong>.&#8221; This passage is from the top:</p><div><hr></div><blockquote><p><em><span>On the bright side, it was Thursday.</span></em></p><p><em><span>&#8220;Gerard, yes, hi, hello,&#8221; said Mrs. Dwyer, the nurse&#8217;s assistant sanctioned to hand over the Perlman headpiece and the big green pill and the smaller red one that activates the green one.</span></em></p><p><em><span>&#8220;How was the week?&#8221; she asked.</span></em></p><p><em><span>&#8220;Same,&#8221; I said.</span></em></p><p><em><span>&#8220;Oh, gosh, sorry,&#8221; she said.</span></em></p><p><em><span>In Treatment Room 4, she checked with the calliper to make sure the pressure foot of the Perlman was seated correctly.</span></em></p><p><em><span>It was.</span></em></p><p><em><span>She seemed a little nervous today.</span></em></p><p><em><span>&#8220;Green first,&#8221; she said. &#8220;I know you know that.&#8221;</span></em></p><p><em><span>I took the green.</span></em></p><p><em><span>&#8220;Good,&#8221; she said. &#8220;Now the red. Then the agua.&#8221;</span></em></p><p><em><span>I took the red. Drank the water from its pre-measured vial.</span></em></p><p><em><span>&#8220;Sit, wait, enjoy,&#8221; she said. &#8220;May this bring you healing.&#8221;</span></em></p><p><em><span>&#8220;Thanks,&#8221; I said.</span></em></p></blockquote><div><hr></div><p>My guess is that Saunders drops us into Gerard&#8217;s world without explanation or apology. A treatment facility&#8212;the Perlman headpiece, the calliper, the pre-measured pills. Clinical and procedural, yet strangely tender. The nurse follows her script: &#8220;May this bring you healing.&#8221; Gerard follows his: &#8220;Thanks.&#8221;</p><p>We don&#8217;t know what the treatment is. We don&#8217;t need to. Do we? What we know is that Thursday is the bright side. That &#8220;same&#8221; is the honest answer to how the week was. And that whatever Gerard is about to return to&#8212;home, family, the ordinary chaos of his life&#8212;this room, this ritual, is either the best part, or the worst.</p><p>Assuming the treatment works&#8212;Gerard drifts back, not randomly, but specifically. Plymouth Street. Summer. His sister Clara beside him on the lawn, thirteen and ten, watching clouds. Saunders renders the memory with an almost unbearable tenderness&#8212;the robin on the fencepost, the Nabisco vanilla on the air, the distant lawnmowers &#8220;cross-bellowing like enraged crewcut men in dispute.&#8221; Pure Saunders.</p><p>But it&#8217;s more than nostalgia. Lying there, Gerard felt&#8212;genuinely felt&#8212;that his generation would be the one to finally fix things. That all of human history, the sandals and sabres and ravishments, had been leading to this moment. To them. To Clara and him on the grass.</p><p>&#8220;Or so I felt, lying on my childhood lawn beside my sister, Clara.&#8221;</p><p>That last line is the whole story in miniature. The &#8220;or so I felt&#8221; doing all the quiet, devastating work.</p><p>And then Gerard comes home. Home to my favourite part of the story.</p><div><hr></div><blockquote><p><em><span>Soon I would go inside for a drink. I knew this. I had done so back then and therefore must do so again. I was, mostly, the boy I had been that day: thirsty, sweet, self-pleased, ignorant of the future, the right side of my face slightly more sun-warmed than the left. But I was also, fractionally, the older person I was now, cringing at the thought of what he, that boy, would find inside.</span></em></p><p><em><span>Which was: Dad pummelling Mom (joyfully, playfully at first, then with increasing rancor), while Uncle Rod pummelled Dad (in an attempt to quell Dad&#8217;s pummelling of Mom) and Aunt Staci also, somewhat performatively, pummelled Mom. (It was unclear what offense Mom had originally committed.) Clara had followed me in and was cowering near an upended coffee table. Now and then one of the adults would step away from the brawl to ingest more of his or her drink. It was all as confusing as it had once actually been. And yet I knew dimly that, within the hour, all would be well, Rod, Staci, Mom, and Dad restored to conviviality, gleefully flinging chairs down from the second-story deck as if to celebrate the intensity of the earlier round-robin pummelling, while Clara and I, in an attempt to re&#235;stablish normalcy, played a terse game of Chinese checkers in the mayhemic space that was the post-pummelling living room: couch tipped on its back, several broken light bulbs lying there, like ivory eggshells out of which exotic baby birds of light had just burst, among a loose flotilla of eight or nine pink party hats, which had come from a neat, hopeful stack, a stack now jammed beneath the radiator, as if it had tried and failed to escape.</span></em></p><p><em><span>Noteworthy were the adjustments our young minds were already making. On the first level: shame was upon us, of course&#8212;embarrassment, resentment of this mode of being, awareness that others in our peer group likely did not live in such a low and volatile milieu. On a second level, perhaps contradictorily: denial that this pummelling was odd or indicated any defect in our family. We were, that is, stretching to see this behavior as a manifestation of our parents&#8217; enviable lust for life; the other children and their non-pummelling parents were mundane squares, never moved by passion into this higher realm of uncontrollability.</span></em></p><p><em><span>We were trying this attitude on for size, one might say.</span></em></p><p><em><span>And, alas, I saw now, we were in the process of being molded. Pummelling would, ever after, be one of the choices available to us. Pummelling had been put on the menu, so to speak. To some, pummelling was unthinkable. To Clara and me, henceforth? Quite thinkable. We had seen these people we loved and respected engaged in it, and therefore, forevermore, pummelling would be something we ourselves might consider doing should we be placed under sufficient duress.</span></em></p><p><em><span>Because this was such a signal family event&#8212;a moment of peak emotional intensity&#8212;I would often, in the years to come, find myself waiting, as it were, for an excuse or opportunity to pummel someone, in much the same way that, I would imagine, a young person raised by virtuoso musicians might, on first finding an instrument in his hand, feel that the moment had arrived for him to begin pursuing the family business.</span></em></p><p><em><span>As for Clara, in the future, she would, more than once, find herself being pummelled and not objecting to it, in the belief (the seed of which had just been planted) that being pummelled did not mean she was unloved and, in fact, might very well mean the opposite.</span></em></p><p><em><span>It was bitter, being back here.</span></em></p><p><em><span>I could have wept for those two children, sitting still as bunnies before that ancient, long-ago-landfilled Chinese-checker board as, the supply of chairs up there having apparently been exhausted, couch cushions began raining down from the deck.</span></em></p><div><hr></div></blockquote><p>The drink Gerard knew he&#8217;d take as a boy leads him inside. And inside is where Saunders changes gears.</p><p>What follows is rendered in Saunders&#8217; signature deadpan&#8212;the word &#8220;pummelling&#8221; repeated so many times it becomes both comic and confronting. Dad pummelling Mom. Uncle Rod pummelling Dad. Aunt Staci, somewhat performatively, pummelling Mom. Clara cowering near an upended coffee table. Adults stepping away from the brawl to refresh their drinks.</p><p>Then&#8212;within the hour&#8212;everyone restored to conviviality, flinging chairs from the second-floor deck as if to celebrate.</p><p>Saunders doesn&#8217;t flinch, and he doesn&#8217;t explain. He just shows you the living room afterwards: couch on its back, broken light bulbs lying there &#8220;like ivory eggshells out of which exotic baby birds of light had just burst,&#8221; pink party hats scattered across the floor.</p><p>Pummelling&#8212;is there a better verb or word for the action? Priceless.</p><blockquote><p><em>&#8220;It was bitter, being back here. I could have wept for those two children.&#8221;</em></p></blockquote><p>The distance between the lawn and the living room. Between the vanilla air and the upended coffee table. Between who we thought we&#8217;d become and what we were quietly being made into.</p><p>Saunders doesn&#8217;t tell you what the Perlman headpiece does. He doesn&#8217;t need to. Thursday is the bright side because Thursday is the only hour Gerard gets to lie on that lawn beside Clara before he has to go back inside.</p><p>Go and read Thursday. Then read it again.<br><br><em>Nick</em></p><p>You might need a sub from the New Yorker<em> <a href="https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/06/12/thursday-fiction-george-saunders">here</a>. </em>If you have trouble, let me know in the comments and I can email you the pdf.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iiBj!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffa1bfa36-8160-4789-b7b7-562704381932_1600x1076.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iiBj!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffa1bfa36-8160-4789-b7b7-562704381932_1600x1076.jpeg 424w, 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stubborn fog&#8212;damp, heavy, and cold. The only bonus was the stillness&#8212;as still as a <strong>Convent Garden</strong> mime-artist.</p><p>Back in the day, Victorian pea-soupers teamed with smoke from cheap, soft coals to produce a yellow smog resembling thick split-pea soup. A blessing for thieves seeking an easy escape, a curse for those forced to brave it. The pea-souper was born.</p><p>G-Town was at least navigable, albeit with caution, both in transit and on foot.</p><p>It had me thinking about the noises we hear daily. </p><p>We&#8217;ve talked about the trains, their unmistakable blasts: two long, one short, then another long. Cars, and the urban tractors: there&#8217;s a particular Ford Ranger model that distinguishes itself from the others with a rocket-like ummff as it accelerates away from a traffic-light stop. Aptly named the Rapture. Fire engines and ambulances are also a daily noise we hear, but subconsciously categorise as normal, important, and standard enough not to stand and stare. Do Police sirens still raise the heartbeat? Maybe. A missing part of transport noise around these parts is aeroplane racket.</p><p>The one that stopped me yesterday, though, was a ship&#8217;s foghorn.</p><p>The first time it didn&#8217;t register&#8212;I heard it but didn&#8217;t associate it with a vessel in Corio Bay, a sheltered semi-enclosed embayment of Port Phillip. Victoria&#8217;s second-largest port. </p><p>The second time it landed. Such a unique sound.</p><p>There&#8217;s something reassuring about foghorns remaining essential in an age of GPS and radar.</p><p>Have a listen the next time a pea-souper lands. You might be surprised.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1488654957710-52554a528d2a?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxMnx8Zm9naG9ybnxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM2NDAxNjJ8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1488654957710-52554a528d2a?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxMnx8Zm9naG9ybnxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM2NDAxNjJ8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1488654957710-52554a528d2a?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxMnx8Zm9naG9ybnxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM2NDAxNjJ8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 848w, 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url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1574434077460-952f13542864?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxnJTI3ZGF5JTIwbWF0ZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM1NTYyMzN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When the term &#8220;mate&#8221; buys you the time you need.</p><p>Left-arm wrist-spin is a hard craft to master. Since 2008, when I started to take coaching seriously, I&#8217;ve been lucky to know, watch, and work with two excellent practitioners. Neither have played first-class cricket: one, Callum Stow, has played for the Melbourne Renegades in the BBL, represented Victoria in domestic one-dayers, and flicked some out for the San Francisco Unicorns in Guyana last year. At 23, Stow is still growing into his trade. Watch this space.</p><p>The other played at Melbourne CC when I coached there from 2009 to 2016&#8212;multiple premierships, bowled quicker than most wrist-spinners, steep bounce from a high action, and a wicked wrong-un. A trait he shared with Stowy.</p><p>Yesterday at 10.15am, walking to a 10.30am CrossFit class in Newtown. Feeling apprehensive, as always. At least I'm not late. Turning left onto Gregory Ave, a couple with matching Retrievers&#8212;both young, neither wanting to be on leashes. After a cautious glance, the male (not the dog) shouts, "Hey Speaky, how are you?"</p><p>This is where the &#8220;mate&#8221; bit comes in.</p><p>"Mate, how are you?" </p><p>It must be six years since I've seen Sean Sturrock&#8212;&#8221;mate&#8221; bought just enough time to ID him. He'd hardly changed. "Sean, what are you doing here?" A brief catch-up&#8212;his partner, the dogs, why he was in Geelong. Great to see him, albeit briefly. CrossFit was waiting. I should have stayed and chatted!</p><p>You could easily argue that &#8220;mate&#8221; is like a poodle in Australia&#8212;over-used and over-crossed. In this instance, though, it was perfect.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1574434077460-952f13542864?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxnJTI3ZGF5JTIwbWF0ZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM1NTYyMzN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1574434077460-952f13542864?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxnJTI3ZGF5JTIwbWF0ZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM1NTYyMzN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1574434077460-952f13542864?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxnJTI3ZGF5JTIwbWF0ZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM1NTYyMzN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 848w, https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1574434077460-952f13542864?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxnJTI3ZGF5JTIwbWF0ZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM1NTYyMzN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 1272w, https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1574434077460-952f13542864?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxnJTI3ZGF5JTIwbWF0ZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM1NTYyMzN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1574434077460-952f13542864?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxnJTI3ZGF5JTIwbWF0ZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM1NTYyMzN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" width="6000" height="4000" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1574434077460-952f13542864?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxnJTI3ZGF5JTIwbWF0ZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODM1NTYyMzN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:4000,&quot;width&quot;:6000,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:null,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;G'day Mate! 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All of it was worth sending.]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/shipping-before-youre-ready</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/shipping-before-youre-ready</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 08 Jul 2026 00:30:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1542906453-02e875f65428?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw0fHxoYW5kJTIwaG92ZXJpbmclMjBvdmVyJTIwbGFwdG9wJTIwdHJhY2twYWQlMkMlMjBjdXJzb3IlMjBvbiUyMHNlbmQlMjBidXR0b24lMkMlMjBzY3JlZW4lMjBnbG93JTIwaW4lMjBkYXJrJTJDJTIwaGVzaXRhdGlvbiUyMGFuZCUyMHJlc29sdmV8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgzMzg1NjM2fDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yesterday I talked about PlayStats. Today, something underneath it.</p><p>There&#8217;s a moment before you share anything&#8212;a product, a post, a thought&#8212;when the voice arrives. Not yet. It&#8217;s not ready. What if it fails? What if nobody cares? That&#8217;s the one that gets me. What if nobody cares?</p><p>I&#8217;ve been here before.</p><p>Shipping a cricket career before I knew what I was doing. Writing before I knew if anyone was reading. Launching an app before the reseller program was defined.</p><p>The paradox is that &#8220;nobody cares&#8221; is often the very thing that sets you free. If nobody&#8217;s watching, you can experiment. If nobody&#8217;s paying attention, you can learn in public without the fear.</p><p>Vulnerability gets a bad reputation here&#8212;dressing up as weakness when it&#8217;s actually the price of entry. You cannot ship something you care about without exposing yourself to the possibility that it lands badly. That&#8217;s not a bug. That&#8217;s the whole point. Just do something.</p><p>Post #89. Still here. Still writing. PlayStats is live. Still learning. The Good Friday short story is promised by post 365. Still unwritten.</p><p>None of it was ready. All of it was worth sending. 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We- well, I- say it&#8217;s still in beta, but the reality is, it&#8217;s live. You can download either app here: </span><a href="https://playstats.app/"><span>PlayStats Cricket</span></a><span> &#8212;or create an account from your browser.</span></p><p><span>I know cricket, and I know how stats relate to the game. In short, PlayStats is a tool that pulls actionable data from the platform PlayHQ, which scores and covers 98% of cricket played in Australia and New Zealand. It can be used by players, supporters, coaches, recruiters, and clubs as an admin resource. The product is evolving organically as we match it to different scenarios; we believe the fundamentals are solid, two state associations are early adopters&#8212;it&#8217;s time to take the wrapper off.</span></p><p><span>Tech interests me, and I have a reasonable understanding of how things work and fit together. I guess this means I get what I&#8217;m selling, and I recognise the market. We have an outreach pipeline set and a reseller program being refined. The stuff we need to make contact is in place. </span></p><p><span>Now&#8217;s the time for action. It&#8217;s time to learn on the job.</span></p><p><span>Perfectionism can be both your friend and foe. It held me back in my playing career; it keeps my golf handicap higher than it should be. PlayStats offers an opportunity to leave perfection behind. Reach out to my networks first, then ripple out to the unknown. Reality tells us the App won&#8217;t be for everyone, but conversion rates indicate success. What is success? For now&#8212;one conversation or sign-up at a time. It&#8217;s time to work it out.</span></p><p><em><span>Nick</span></em></p><p><em><span>Create your free </span><a href="https://playstats.app/"><span>account here</span></a></em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7Bin!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fec9eb011-dd93-4872-8fa8-214514af6f13_2502x1332.png" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7Bin!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fec9eb011-dd93-4872-8fa8-214514af6f13_2502x1332.png 424w, 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Unforgiving to yourself.]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/why-so-positive</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/why-so-positive</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 06 Jul 2026 00:31:25 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1515851004584-6df9c8579cf9?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw3fHxuZWdhdGl2ZSUyMHBvc2l0aXZlfGVufDB8fHx8MTc4MzI5MzM0M3ww&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I'd like to know why I can be so positive when talking about others, yet so negative when talking to myself. Psychological double standards?</p><p>Academia has an answer: "People naturally reserve more empathy, grace, and support for friends, colleagues, and loved ones, while internalising pressure, setting impossibly high standards, and directing the brain's survival-based negativity bias inward."</p><p>So that&#8217;s it, of course, it makes perfect sense!</p><p>In Pivotonian street-talk&#8212;shout out to a Geelong native's take&#8212;it lands better:</p><p>"Most of us walk around carrying two standards: a generous one for everyone else, and an unforgiving one for ourselves." Resonate?</p><p>And circling back to me, the oh so positive one:</p><p>&#8220;It&#8217;s simpleton, you&#8217;re giving everyone else room while treating yourself like an army martinet. The brain is wired to play defence. When you look at your friends, you&#8217;re forgiving. When you look in the mirror, you&#8217;re looking for mistakes.&#8221;</p><p>I prefer the Pivotonian explanation over mine. Haha. 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Whether you want it or not. &#8220;<em><span>Hard to face all those nights</span><br><span>and suffer thru the fools advice.</span></em><span>&#8221;</span></p><p>Sharing an idea, a book, or a tool to help someone with their daily work is a genuinely nice thing to do. It shows you understand their position and goals&#8212;there&#8217;s more care and thought in the action.</p><p>This is why a well-placed recommendation lands better than an assumption. </p><p>Know your audience before you share. A compliment costs nothing. An unwanted Netflix series recommendation at 10pm on a Sunday? That&#8217;s just noise.</p><p>Don&#8217;t assume a friend shares your viewing habits. Or your taste. 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url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1691097097517-e30038aeda68?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxzaG9ydCUyMHN0b3J5JTIwc2F0dXJkYXl8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgzMDQzMDQzfDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Short Story Saturday</strong></p><p>A new weekend feature&#8212;starting today, or rather, announcing today.</p><p>Saturday will be home to a short story&#8212;memoir mostly, occasionally somewhere between fact and fiction, or simply one worth sharing. Real places, real moments, real people. Anonymised where needed.</p><p>Yesterday&#8217;s, <a href="https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/the-day-after">The Day After</a>, was an accidental first. From next Saturday, it&#8217;s deliberate&#8212;beware, it might get worse!</p><p>See you then.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1691097097517-e30038aeda68?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxzaG9ydCUyMHN0b3J5JTIwc2F0dXJkYXl8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgzMDQzMDQzfDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1691097097517-e30038aeda68?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxzaG9ydCUyMHN0b3J5JTIwc2F0dXJkYXl8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgzMDQzMDQzfDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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now</span></a></p><p></p><p><em><br></em></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[The day after]]></title><description><![CDATA[Everything is now so mediocre]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/the-day-after</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/the-day-after</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 03 Jul 2026 01:16:39 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KLnU!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F3db5c34b-c469-49cb-b476-20b8d5ba9aa3_2560x1440.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yesterday was post #87; today, #88. #87 was the day after #86, and today, #88 will be the day after #87. Which means the day after is always the day after. Confirmed.</p><p>My mornings are mindlessly predictable. A gradual emergence from forced slumber regulated by the Melbourne train running between South Geelong and Geelong stations. No need for a clock. The first one I hear is just after 5am, thereafter at 20-minute intervals. A standard Australian train approaching a level crossing emits two long blasts, one short, one long. Reassuring. Three trains equals an hour of snooze time. I block out the inbound ones.</p><p>I really don't want to walk to the bathroom. Five trains might be a personal best in toilet avoidance. Before I do, the pattern is inevitable&#8212;a short curl-up to warm exposed feet, two side-tosses, the sinker, a stare left in hope. And then a fixation on the perfume bottle that remains a lone token of what used to be.</p><p>I want to bury the perfume. But it was oh so expensive. We had such wasteful tendencies. &#8220;Just bury the fucking perfume.&#8221; The forced metaphors of fallen relationships. The bedroom is now so mediocre.</p><p>Flush the yellow. The day has started.</p><p>I need to get to places where I should be. The Kitchen. Hopefully not enough rain to flood the floor&#8212;didn't put the buckets out. Where's the phone? Doesn't matter. The kettle is more important. Hot tea, milk, sugar. What's better? When someone else makes it.</p><p>Where do you go for news? I'm still drawn to Twitter/X but finding what you need is a shit-show. TV is an option, but I don't want the YT rabbit hole, and the ABC hosts make me want to go back to bed. I don't hear the trains now.</p><p>Fuck it. Just go to the shower. Whoever fitted the bathroom window must have come straight from happy hour. Summer affords a cooling breeze; winter, it&#8217;s just plain frigid. The water's warm but you have to run around to get wet. It's a train-wreck.</p><p>Maybe this is my solace. After the chaos, I get to sit and write whatever the fuck comes into my head. </p><p>This morning it was meant to be another play on numbers. Instead&#8212;morning routines and emotional honesty.</p><p>That&#8217;ll do &#8216;til the day after today, when we&#8217;ll do it all again.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><p><em>Ps. 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You know different, of course. I have posted daily since April 1, though. Some kind of joke, right?</p><p>He cried. It wasn&#8217;t purposeful, he was a senior player, too. It was just something I said that caught him off guard and clearly hit close to home.</p><p>&#8220;Your numbers: you build, protect, and own them. Your numbers will always be your numbers.&#8221;</p><p>Darty was finishing up at Melbourne CC&#8212;he started his career there, went elsewhere, then returned to win a flag. His numbers said he was a proper player. And he was. He teared up.</p><p>Numbers run cricket: batting averages, strike rates, runs; wickets, economy rates, dot ball percentages. That&#8217;s just the tip of it.</p><p>This is <strong>post #87</strong>. Still in building mode. The journey so far has been good, bad, and somewhere in between&#8212;much like a season&#8217;s numbers.</p><p>#87 is a significant number in Australian cricket. Without overthinking it, here&#8217;s a simple Mancunian definition: 87 is 13 short of 100, which used to be an important score in cricket, and 13 is an unlucky number. So 87 is to be avoided.</p><p>And 13 being unlucky? It has something to do with its proximity to 12. Or Christians would argue it was Judas being the 13th guest at the Last Supper.</p><p>Either way, whether it&#8217;s the Devil&#8217;s number in cricket (87) or just plain unlucky for most 13&#8212; numbers do shape how we see and receive things.</p><p>For ADS, we&#8217;re just building quietly. Trying to say more with less. Keeping a loose eye on the milestones ahead.</p><p>Have a good day wherever you are. It&#8217;s the second day of July here.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1592744254966-58c65cfd2e69?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw2fHxwYWRsb2NrJTIwd2l0aCUyMG51bWJlcnN8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgyOTUyNDUzfDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1592744254966-58c65cfd2e69?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw2fHxwYWRsb2NrJTIwd2l0aCUyMG51bWJlcnN8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgyOTUyNDUzfDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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more complicated than that. Perhaps that&#8217;s not a failing of memory but a necessity. We don&#8217;t remember whole lives, more we remember the story that stayed with us.</p><p>Driving over the weekend, I tried Spotify&#8217;s DJ X feature. The first set was random&#8212;fast-forwarded. The second, some listening familiarity. Then the third opened with an eighties favourite: <strong>Philip Bailey&#8217;s &#8220;Walking on the Chinese Wall</strong>.&#8221; I didn&#8217;t realise then, but listening back now, it was such a spiritual sound for me. Produced by Phil Collins, Bailey employed his signature falsetto against a soothing percussive sound.</p><p>I played it over&#8212;do you have the same condition? Words matter more to me now. The hook that kept pulling me back: &#8220;Watching for the coins to fall.&#8221; As a hook should, it anchored me to the tune.</p><p>I&#8217;m not sure why we listen to music&#8212;escape, memory, comfort, connection, perhaps all four. But now and then a song finds you at exactly the right moment and refuses to let go.</p><p>Four decades later, still watching for the coins to fall.</p><p>P.S. Here&#8217;s the <a href="https://open.spotify.com/track/0PXHA9nXcu4UOJFXvye9LE?si=2f8ee0833f0e4a02">link</a>. I know you&#8217;re going to listen on repeat. Watch out for the drum intro at 0.18. Mr Collins, please!</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1586974710160-55f48f417990?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHx3YXRjaGluZyUyMGZvciUyMHRoZSUyMGNvaW5zJTIwdG8lMjBmYWxsfGVufDB8fHx8MTc4Mjg1OTkyN3ww&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1586974710160-55f48f417990?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHx3YXRjaGluZyUyMGZvciUyMHRoZSUyMGNvaW5zJTIwdG8lMjBmYWxsfGVufDB8fHx8MTc4Mjg1OTkyN3ww&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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class="button primary" href="https://www.adifferentsober.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Beep-beep Monday]]></title><description><![CDATA[When the craic's good, nuttin' else matters]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/beep-beep-monday</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/beep-beep-monday</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 30 Jun 2026 00:30:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1761281220123-b6c7b1b4b399?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxoYXJwb29uJTIwYmVlcnxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODI3NzczMTh8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span>New to me, old hat to others. Beep-beep Monday.</span></p><p><span>I&#8217;ve said </span><a href="https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/fridays"><span>before</span></a><span> that consumption habits shouldn&#8217;t be framed by the day. So Mondays are not all about rainy days and The Carpenters.</span></p><p><span>I write here as a victim of hop and grape, too little sustenance, and irregular sleep. Missing keys, spelling all over the shop, and the mind as hazy as a Tuesday morning should never be. But at least I got to see something I wouldn&#8217;t otherwise have seen if I had followed the normal routine of a mundane Monday.</span></p><p><span>There should be more of it. Transplanting yourself in foreign territory and surroundings. What do you need? Simple. Just willing hosts. Last night I filled a breach left by an under-the-weather mate. Not sure if he participates every Monday, but the hosts do, whenever possible.</span></p><p>The craic was great. And when the craic&#8217;s good, nuttin&#8217; else matters.</p><p>YOYO - you&#8217;re only young once. Thank you. Good night.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><p><em>P.S. 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url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1725726330300-d332daf9ed69?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxzdGFnZSUyMGRvb3IlMjBleGl0JTIwbGVmdHxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODI2OTExOTB8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>England&#8217;s departing captain said, &#8220;I absolutely love cricket, I love the sport.&#8221; </p></blockquote><p>Good reason to invest most of the last 20 years in such a beautiful, frustrating game.</p><blockquote><p>And then, &#8220;Over the last 12 months there&#8217;s been certain moments where I felt like I haven&#8217;t loved it. Last week back with Durham, there wasn&#8217;t a moment when I didn&#8217;t. Being able to compare being back with my county and here, to not feel that sense of love and complete and utter enjoyment as I have done before, you just know.&#8221;</p></blockquote><p>The difference between being under the lights and in the shadows.</p><p>In a move that surprised most but himself, Ben Stokes announced his retirement as captain of England&#8217;s Test team and from international cricket, effective at the end of the third Test against New Zealand at Trent Bridge. His 122nd Test.</p><p>It&#8217;s true, if you choose to stand out the front, you better expect a few arrows in the back. He&#8217;s had his share; often it was teammates firing, not in distrust or anger, more in their abject incompetence.</p><p>Knowing when to stop is as important as when to start. Beginnings are universally celebrated, endings, rarely so. But, for me, a well-chosen exit has a value all its own.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1725726330300-d332daf9ed69?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxzdGFnZSUyMGRvb3IlMjBleGl0JTIwbGVmdHxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODI2OTExOTB8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1725726330300-d332daf9ed69?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxzdGFnZSUyMGRvb3IlMjBleGl0JTIwbGVmdHxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODI2OTExOTB8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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Sadly missed the one we both wanted.]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/always-redders</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/always-redders</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 28 Jun 2026 00:50:33 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!U8hC!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F613ace20-e1f1-4e06-8513-798a97395dd3_1800x1350.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It&#8217;s been a cold few days here. Walking through the Geelong cricket ground precinct yesterday morning, I glanced at the hibernating scoreboard and was reminded of my late friend, Ian Redpath MBE&#8212;it bears his name.</p><p>Redders passed in late 2024, aged 83. He made his Test debut two years before I was born&#8212;making 97 against a strong South African side, and combining with Bill Lawry to put on 217 for the first wicket. He remained a fixture of Australia&#8217;s side through the 1960s and 1970s, returning 4,734 Test runs at an average of 43.45. A national treasure.</p><p>I came to Geelong in 2020 to coach his beloved cricket club. His welcome was reassuring and genuine. I will always be grateful for his friendship. I remember him charging me with three goals:</p><p>&#8220;Don&#8217;t let the local GCA competition distract you. If you plan to join a golf club, make sure it&#8217;s Barwon Heads&#8212;I&#8217;ll help with that. And yes, it would be nice if we could win our first premiership.&#8221;</p><p>Ticked two boxes. Sadly missed the one we both wanted.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!U8hC!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F613ace20-e1f1-4e06-8513-798a97395dd3_1800x1350.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!U8hC!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F613ace20-e1f1-4e06-8513-798a97395dd3_1800x1350.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!U8hC!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F613ace20-e1f1-4e06-8513-798a97395dd3_1800x1350.jpeg 848w, 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Viva, World Cup 2026]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/full-kit-wanker</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/full-kit-wanker</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 27 Jun 2026 00:33:22 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!lhW-!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F0a737c69-53dc-4e04-9a54-142bb78a3f6c_2560x1440.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This post started at the<strong> PGA Championship</strong> in Philly and resurfaced this week at the <strong>Travelers Championship</strong> in Connecticut.</p><p>I'm fortunate to have been to many pro golf tournaments&#8212;you probably know by now that I have an unhealthy obsession with the game. Playing whenever I can, watching on TV, and going to tournaments where possible. Previously, I would have been living in New England at this time of year and would no doubt have wandered out to TPC River Highlands. Sadly, that's no longer an option. So TV it will be.</p><p>The full kit wanker (FKW)? Oh yes, on full view in Cromwell, as they were in Philadelphia. The one thing you cannot do at a PGA Tour event is play golf; instead, you watch players who can actually play, play golf. Touring professionals who would beat you blindfolded. So why do fools dress up like they're off to their Saturday morning game at the local course? Because they're full kit wankers. A polo shirt is acceptable, but not really welcome. Golf trousers over normal shorts is just plain fucking stupid. Golf branded caps? The reason pros wear a Titleist cap? They get paid. Wake up, mate. And the finishing touch: the complete full kit wanker who parades their FootJoy Premiers rather than a pair of ordinary sneakers. Shoot me.</p><p>To demonstrate balance, there is a place for the FKW. The beautiful game is in town, and full kit legends are everywhere. It&#8217;s been refreshing&#8212;male-to-male embracing, Scottish fans reminding Boston of what it used to be, supporters from around the globe coming together as one. </p><p>As a prominent Substacker said, &#8220;The beautiful game generates a beautiful by-product &#8212; togetherness.&#8221; Funny he felt compelled to include the football translation.</p><p>Same kit, completely different energy. One&#8217;s delusional. The other&#8217;s glorious. 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BTW, he's alive and well.]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/kenneth-walcott-mcleod</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/kenneth-walcott-mcleod</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 26 Jun 2026 00:30:18 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1675855546421-8c537592b144?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwyfHxqYW1haWNhJTIwZmxhZ3xlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODI0Mjk2MTV8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I mentioned a <a href="https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/four-and-zero">game of cricket</a> on Wednesday. Unremarkable for me &#8212; but life-changing for someone who became a friend.</p><p>In case you missed it, Kenneth Walcott McLeod followed Lancashire around the island of Jamaica in 1987 with the obvious intention of impressing the tourists&#8212;bowling left-arm rockets with considerable gain&#8212;culminating in a three-day first-class match at Sabina Park. He accounted for your scribe in the first innings, and I wasn&#8217;t there long enough to allow the double in the second. Lancashire contracted Kenny for the 1987 season, continuing into 1988, with the highlight a blistering spell against Leicestershire&#8212;career best figures of 5-8.</p><p>A brief aside on the name. My son is also called Kenneth (Kenny) (Ken), after my mother's brother, Uncle Ken, who was a significant presence in my early years. Walcott might think we borrowed his. We did, a little. But Irene's brother got there first.</p><p>Later&#8212;1990-91&#8212;we played a season together at South Canberra Cricket Club, living in an apartment in Kingston. Ironic for a Jamaican. Kenny was three years senior and had played in Canberra the year before. Metaphorically, he held my hand in the early going.</p><p>I learnt so much from Kenny. My career was trending OK back at Lancashire, and Kenny had lost his contract after the club signed Wasim Akram as their overseas player. He never once complained about his lot, he was happy in Canberra, bowling in second gear until someone took liberties with him. I was fascinated listening to him talk about life in Jamaica&#8212;his schooling, Christian values, kindness, family, and travelling to Kingston to try and play for Jamaica. He did.</p><p>Kenny is still the only person I've known to iron handkerchiefs. Thursday nights after training, we'd head into Manuka for a wander. I'd be waiting at the door while he pressed his shirt, trousers, and yes, his handkerchief. His values were forged in St Elizabeth and carried with him everywhere. He never preached them&#8212;he lived them. Quietly, he taught me so much. Just don't tell him.</p><p>We met our wives in Canberra. He stayed and made a life&#8212;two girls, all grown up with their own children. Kenny the grandfather, now retired in Batemans Bay, swinging the golf club as sweet as he bowled.</p><p>There&#8217;s too much to say here, I&#8217;ll write more over on <a href="https://www.speaking.cricket/">SpeakingCricket.</a> Yesterday I asked a mutual friend and ADS reader to find some dirt on KWM. There was nothing to say, other than good. I&#8217;ll share this instead. It says everything. Thanks, Darce.</p><blockquote><p><em>I didn&#8217;t get to play a lot with Kenny, but thankfully I did see a lot of him. He visited me at my workplace, almost to the minute, every fortnight.</em></p><p><em>&#8220;Doogs,&#8221; he would say, &#8220;I need to send some money to Jamaica.&#8221; &#8220;No problem, Kenneth &#8212; and where do I send it?&#8221;</em></p><p><em>Classic McLeod. Just send it to Jamaica, man. Once we established the bank account, I would process the International Money Transfer, and he would wander back out into Franklin Street&#8212;comfortable in the knowledge that his Mum would spend a bit more on family groceries that week.</em></p></blockquote><p>See you soon, Walcott.</p><p><em>Nick </em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1675855546421-8c537592b144?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwyfHxqYW1haWNhJTIwZmxhZ3xlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODI0Mjk2MTV8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" 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Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Elders]]></title><description><![CDATA[Easy to see, just harder to connect]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/elders</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/elders</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2026 00:31:19 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1632961968606-f816963af03a?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwzfHx3aXNkb218ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgyMjQzNjU2fDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Two questions to start. &#8220;Have we forgotten the importance of listening to our elders? Or seeking guidance from those who have walked the path before?&#8221;</p><p>I asked a friend yesterday. The summary was yes and no&#8212;which sounds vague, but is exactly how I see it. Elders were once more participatory, more inclined to stop and make connections with the younger generation. Today that instinct seems diluted. So yes, there is less reliance on elders&#8212;but no, they haven&#8217;t been forgotten.</p><p>Way back then, I turned mainly to those older than me for knowledge and support. Cricket was a self-driven game in the eighties and nineties. Coaches were vehicles that took you to and from games&#8212;not people whose job it was to help you play better. Older peers served as sources of instruction and motivation, demonstrating through action how to handle different situations.</p><p>Rarely would I look to my contemporaries. In a way, I was in a race with them. I was fortunate that Lancashire had so many outstanding players. Easy to see, just harder to connect with. I was fortunate to link with those I did.</p><p>Facing spin on a wearing pitch in the third or fourth innings, the question was simple: what would Neil Fairbrother do? Against pace &#8212; Graeme Fowler. Catching at slip &#8212; David Hughes. Leadership &#8212; Clive Lloyd. Not that I had the nerve to ask Mr Lloyd anything.</p><p>These cricketers were beacons. Now, I regard that accumulated wisdom with no small amount of reverence. My answer is invariably there. And now, where possible, it&#8217;s for me to pass that wisdom on.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1632961968606-f816963af03a?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwzfHx3aXNkb218ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgyMjQzNjU2fDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1632961968606-f816963af03a?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwzfHx3aXNkb218ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgyMjQzNjU2fDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1632961968606-f816963af03a?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwzfHx3aXNkb218ZW58MHx8fHwxNzgyMjQzNjU2fDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 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url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!z9qj!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2532af97-3fd6-4e00-9063-6b9900b3a1f7_1280x848.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;d just made a forgettable first-class debut against Jamaica at Sabina Park, the then cathedral of Jamaican cricket. It was 1987, a pre-season tour for Lancashire. I was a long way down the batting depth chart. However, several injuries meant I was selected for the marquee game of the tour against the hosts, captained by Michael Holding. We were well beaten, rolled for 90-odd in the first innings&#8212;Jamaica won by nine wickets. My contribution was four and zero. Yes, pretty unremarkable.</p><p>The experience, though, was amazing. Sabina Park had a villainous reputation due to the extreme pace of its wicket. The ground sits in the southern suburbs of Kingston on South Camp Road, approximately 2.4km directly east of Bob Marley's Trench Town.</p><p>The main pavilion to the left of the dressing rooms was a grand, rambling structure that ebbed and flowed with thirsty patrons throughout the game. The opposite end housed what seemed to be the locals who didn't qualify for a position in the pavilion. To the right, a sparsely populated stand &#8212; and behind it, across the street, the local gun court. Prison.</p><p>Every morning, the bus from our New Kingston hotel would stop on South Camp Road before turning into the ground. There was no prison wall&#8212;just an open wire fence. People lined the perimeter, shouting messages toward the concrete blocks, some jovial, others more stern. It was like the sky-high balcony that draws you ever closer. I wanted to get out and see for myself&#8212; not the best idea, at that time, Kingston was one of the most dangerous cities in the world. Instead, I nicked one to slip, and kicked a full, straight ball. </p><p>It&#8217;s nearly forty years hence, and I still see that line of people like it was yesterday. I often wonder how life worked out for them. </p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!z9qj!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2532af97-3fd6-4e00-9063-6b9900b3a1f7_1280x848.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!z9qj!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2532af97-3fd6-4e00-9063-6b9900b3a1f7_1280x848.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!z9qj!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2532af97-3fd6-4e00-9063-6b9900b3a1f7_1280x848.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!z9qj!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2532af97-3fd6-4e00-9063-6b9900b3a1f7_1280x848.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!z9qj!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2532af97-3fd6-4e00-9063-6b9900b3a1f7_1280x848.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!z9qj!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2532af97-3fd6-4e00-9063-6b9900b3a1f7_1280x848.jpeg" width="1280" height="848" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/2532af97-3fd6-4e00-9063-6b9900b3a1f7_1280x848.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:848,&quot;width&quot;:1280,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:null,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;File:Gun court.jpg - 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Everything.]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/an-influencer</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/an-influencer</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 00:33:24 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1519423791119-fef2800aaef7?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwyNnx8aW5zdGFncmFtJTIwaW5mbHVlbmNlcnxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODIxNzQ0NTl8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span>I know Insta equals Instagram. Do I understand it? Not really. Do I want to? Not really. Do I have an account? Yes. What do I use it for? I don&#8217;t know.</span></p><p><span>So, what actually happens there?</span></p><p><span>I would say millions of humans spend their days trying to be popular, buying things that make them look good, wearing hats backwards, creating their own version of perfect. People from every corner of the globe are hoping to be the next big thing.</span></p><p><span>Billions of hours, mostly for free, to augment a social media platform.</span></p><p><span>Part of the fraud is that the pyramid scheme will pay off for many, when the math tells a different story. Instagram and its like run on a single metric: likes and followers, promoting a rear-window view mentality. What&#8217;s wrong with being grounded and seeking effective habits in your daily life? I hear most of those cherished followers aren&#8217;t real anyway.</span></p><p><span>Yesterday I </span><a href="https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/playing-the-villain"><span>wrote</span></a><span> about Wyndham Clark winning the U.S. Open &#8212; not a single like, follow, or comment. What a bummer. I&#8217;m in a social media coma today.</span></p><p><span>Anyway. I wanted to learn more about Mr Clark. Following the normal path, I learnt first that he has a new partner&#8212;Emily Tanner. Tanner is a prominent American model and, you guessed it, a digital influencer with 738K Instagram followers&#8212;haha, a few more than my feeble effort.</span></p><p><span>No wonder Clark calls her his lucky charm.</span></p><p><em><span>Nick</span></em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1519423791119-fef2800aaef7?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwyNnx8aW5zdGFncmFtJTIwaW5mbHVlbmNlcnxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODIxNzQ0NTl8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1519423791119-fef2800aaef7?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwyNnx8aW5zdGFncmFtJTIwaW5mbHVlbmNlcnxlbnwwfHx8fDE3ODIxNzQ0NTl8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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Clark wins the U.S. Open]]></title><description><![CDATA[How influence catches fire]]></description><link>https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/playing-the-villain</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.adifferentsober.com/p/playing-the-villain</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Nick Speak]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 22 Jun 2026 00:31:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!ASed!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F25f76f43-3c12-4c08-8771-1682c64d5826_2500x1408.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>He just happened to be playing late on Thursday, when the insistent Long Island wind laid down. An awkward detail amid the vitriol directed at American golfer <strong>Wyndham Clark</strong> during this U.S. Open. </p><p>The same conditions late Thursday were available to his peers. Truth is, Clark played better, separating himself from the field. He held the lead from that point to deep into Sunday&#8217;s back nine. The invective continued regardless.</p><p>Tall poppies are easy to cut; the Long Island crowd took full advantage, showing that the crowd behaviour at last year&#8217;s Ryder Cup was not in isolation. </p><p>"Get in the sand" on boorish repeat after every Clark approach shot. "You suck, Wyndham." "Let's go Scottie." "Burn baby, burn" &#8212; the last two in support of Clark's closest challengers, <strong>Scottie Scheffler</strong> and <strong>Sam Burns</strong>.</p><p>Not wanting to miss out, NBC&#8217;s commentary followed suit&#8212;seemingly unable to hide their own contempt. They reminded us continually that Clark was scrambling, escaping trouble by chipping and putting the lights out, as though those disciplines are all luck and no skill. Shocking how quickly one golfer attracted such a villainous tag. How influence can catch fire.</p><p>Fans have a choice in who to support, and sporting celebrities can be polarising. Clark kicked a locker room at last year&#8217;s U.S. Open and dodged accountability&#8212;a mistake. Since then he&#8217;s played OK, and has been a regular withdrawer on the PGA Tour.</p><p>The result? Wyndham Clark is a two-time U.S. Open champion. Well played, sir, I say.</p><p>And to the churlish patrons removed from the course and escorted to the train station to travel west back to Manhasset&#8212;I hope your German SUVs are on bricks.</p><p><em>Nick</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!ASed!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F25f76f43-3c12-4c08-8771-1682c64d5826_2500x1408.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!ASed!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F25f76f43-3c12-4c08-8771-1682c64d5826_2500x1408.jpeg 424w, 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